With this phrase, my tone will change from time to time based on the seriousness of the offence. As a general rule, I try to stay pretty nonchalant in my manner of speaking. It is frank, to the point, but lacking emotion in any direction.
This leaves room for some shock/dismay/surprise/etc. when the offense is especially serious. This would be saved for moments of disrespectful speaking toward a parent. "Whoa, (look of surprise/dismay--head cocked) you do not have the freedom to speak to your mother like that." You might notice that I take away the contraction. Instead of "don't" it is "do not."
This phrase lets my children know that they have overstepped their boundaries. They know their actions or speech is not acceptable. It is good because not only does it tell your child something he did was unacceptable, it tells him what it was. You aren't simply saying "that's not okay," you are using a real noun or verb. This phrase offers concrete information for your child to process, not just an ambiguous idea or best guess. "You don't have the freedom to..." has served us well.
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3 comments
Oh, my! What an awesome post, Val. I haven't made it this far in the -wise series, but your posts lead me to believe that I need to continue in my -wise journey.
I love this tip! Thank you for posting. =)
wonderful! I totally plan on incorporating that into my daily language, not only at home, but in my classroom. Middle schoolers will respond to this nicely! Thanks!
You are both very welcome!
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