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Lindsay said...: Wow,...you are SO awesome, this must'v taken FOREVER! SO helpful, thanks!; February 17, 2008 10:56 AM
Plowmanators said...: lol! You have no idea how long it took! I have been working on it for a while. I thought it would be really useful, though. I will add each new post to it as I go. It should make finding solutions a lot easier for everyone!; February 17, 2008 2:47 PM
Rob & LeAnna said...: Thank you so much for doing this! I am new to your blog, but a day doesn't go by that I don't check it out. It is amazing how you seem to say just what I need to hear so that I can work it in with what is going on with my 2 month old. Your blog has really been an asset to me; I sure wish I would have had this 6 years ago when I had my first child, we just had the book Growing Kids God's Way (our pastors let us borrow theirs). There isn't a lot of support for the PDF here, but everyone has seen the out come of our PDF children, now 5&6. We get complaments all the time and other kids really look up to our kids because they treat others with kindness and respect. We have started from the beginning with our 3rd as well. But every child is differant and we have run into many differances with our newest member. So once again, thank you!; February 17, 2008 7:57 PM
Plowmanators said...: You are welcome! Yes, every child is different. It is a whole new ball game with each one. Some times do come easier, but you still have a learning curve.; February 18, 2008 9:48 AM
annbo said...: Your website is really helpful! I think you gave more details and "meat" to the Babywise book, which I read and read and read, but never seems to get it to be "real". We tried BW on my firstborn and failed terribly. I wasn't emotionally ready for that. In the end he still slept on his own after 4 months and through the night by 1 year, and he goes to bed on his own (sleeps from 7 to 7)and doesn't whine alot now that he's 2. However, it took us MANY months of tiredness, and sleep-deprivation and a sore arm. I wish it'll be different with my daughter now who is 7 weeks old, esp with the need to take care of my firstborn.
Really wish to try BW again, but I've so many reservations, mainly if I can stick to it and whether it'll really work or whether I can withstand a long time of crying...
Any advice for a person who's trying "again"?
btw, she's on a good feeding schedule, and can sleep on good routine, but the BIG problem of sleeping while carried and continues to sleep while carried. I view that as a BIG problem.; February 28, 2008 8:34 AM
Plowmanators said...: I find Babywise to be so helpful--especially in the caring for two young children. It has made life much easier than it would have been otherwise.

I would suggest you work to phsych yourself up. Take heart from the good experiences of others. Be realistic with yourself. The crying is so hard. I was reduced to tears even with my second, and I had the shining example of my son to know the reason I was doing it. It is never easy to listen to. You have to just decide you are going to do what is best for your baby, and you have to believe that is what is best.

I would read the CIO bootcamp so you can be aware of things that make CIO easier. Not easy, but easier. I would also start as soon as you are ready and you are committed (and feel your baby is ready). The sooner you break the habit of sleeping while carried, the easier it will be to do. But don't start until you are ready to do it. If you start and stop and start and stop, it will just be too confusing for your baby. Though you do need to evaluate your baby's readiness once you start.

I would also recommend joining a BW group. It can be so helpful to have people rooting you on. I really like the group on Maya's Mom. It is very active, 214 members right now, and everyone is really supportive.

Don't hesitate to ask questions and look for reassurance. Let me know when I can help. Good luck!; February 28, 2008 10:48 AM
annbo said...: Thanks, Plowmanators, for your comments on both queries!

How do I find a BW group?

We are Day 2 CIO and things are looking better! =); March 1, 2008 12:36 PM
Plowmanators said...: See this post:

Other Online Babywise Resources: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/02/other-online-babywise-resources.html

I am glad it is getting better!; March 1, 2008 8:10 PM
annbo said...: Didn't have time to reply your comments cos we're in the "heat" of training. =) Things are looking good but we have questions ALL THE TIME.

For eg, you said about putting Kaitlyn in a swing to finish her nap. We don't have a swing, it seems that the only way for her to finish her nap is in our arms, rocking...isn't that sabotaging the whole CIO process?

In the midst of CIO training, do I have to worry about the 45 mins intruder? Or should I continue with CIO? Cos I can't tell if she's awake or if she still wants sleep (mostly she still wants sleep) cos she'll cry at 45 min, leave her, she'll wake up and she'll go back and cry and go back and cry and go back. Very short intervals. We're on Day 5.; March 4, 2008 5:44 PM
Plowmanators said...: You will have to watch her and see how it affects her. Some babies would be okay with that. For others, it would make CIO harder. If her naps get worse after you do it, then you know it is not good for her.

I wouldn't worry about the 45 minute thing until she can fall asleep well on her own. Just have her finish it out the same way you do if she won't fall asleep.; March 4, 2008 10:02 PM
jahanschen said...: You're awesome! I just saw the index (doh!). I love that you've already answered sooo many questions so thoroughly--all I have to do is find it on the index and send the link on to my friends. It's great! (When are writing your book?...and I'm just partially kidding!); March 26, 2008 11:12 PM
david, blair, and sadie beth said...: Hi Valerie,
I was wondering if you have done a post about separation anxiety? I quickly looked through the index and didn't see anything. If not, do you have any thoughts? Did either of your kids deal with this?

Sadie Beth is now 8 almost 8.5 months old, and we are dealing with it BIG TIME! It's the "every time you walk out of the room I'm going to cry" sort of thing and sometimes it is anytime I am more than a foot away from her! I'm trying not to reinforce this and cause her to be spoiled or overly dependent on me, but it also seems to me that she is not trying to manipulate me so I want to meet her need as well....it is very exhausting! I think she is also dealing with it at night and that it might be the cause of some NW and not being able to resettle. Thanks for any direction or ideas you may have.; May 29, 2008 12:03 PM
Kylie said...: Hi! I cannot thank you enough for your website... it really fills in a lot of missing pieces to PDF!

Quick question... can you give me some direction or refer my to one of your postings that deals with how you start PDF with a newborn?

I am due to "pop" any day now and I still feel like I'm not fully sure how to start PDF.

Thanks again!; July 10, 2008 5:31 AM
SchoolsAreForFish.net Blog said...: I'm new here, but we've used Babywise for all 8 of our children w/ great success. Would someone be willing to show me where to find answers for a mother I know whose 1 year old wakes/screams to nurse every 1 1/2 hours through the night? She's completely ignorant of sleep training, and I don't have the experience to help her . . .

Tia for any and all help you can give me!; July 31, 2008 4:41 PM
Plowmanators said...: Wow, there are a lot of posts I have missed here.

jahanschen, book. Umm..I don't know ;); August 3, 2008 4:19 PM
Plowmanators said...: Blair,

I don't have any experience with SA. I think I am going to talk to a BW friend about it because there have been many questions.; August 3, 2008 4:19 PM
Plowmanators said...: Kylie,

You are likely in the middle of it by now. PDF with a newborn is pretty easy--it gets harder as they get older for most (once they wake up on their own). Please don't hesitate to ask questions as they come up.; August 3, 2008 4:21 PM
Plowmanators said...: Schoolsareforfish,

Is she doing BW? She needs to help her daughter learn to soothe herself, which is going to be much harder at this age. She also needs to have her daughter eat regular meals in the day with no snacking. The whole BW method would be her solution.; August 3, 2008 4:22 PM
SchoolsAreForFish.net Blog said...: Thank you! I did get in touch with a contact mom from GFI and found another mom with some experience helping w/ this kind of situation. The mom in need is already seeing good results! Thank the Lord!; August 5, 2008 10:27 AM
Plowmanators said...: Glad to hear things are going better for her.; August 5, 2008 11:00 PM
Kristen Appleby Bryant said...: Tonight, I am starting BW with my 6 week old son. He wants to be held all the time, for naps and awake time. I find myself unable to do anything during the day, until my husband gets home. I desperately need something to help us! I have a few questions...
1) How long do I let him CIO? He has been crying intensely for the past 1.5 hours.
2) I am nursing him and don't know how to get him to feed every 3 hours. He is still nursing every 2 hours.
3) When I return to work, will it be feasible for the day care staff to continue BW? If so, what should I ask them to do while he is in their care?

Thanks!; September 10, 2008 7:37 PM
Plowmanators said...: Be sure to read through this post about CIO:

CIO Bootcamp: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2007/11/cio-bootcamp.html

Work toward the 3 hour mark. Make sure he takes a full feeding at each meal. Shoot for 2.5 first.

As far as daycare, I would try to find a provider who will stick to your routine. See this post for more on daycare:

Daycare/Childcare and Babywise : http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/06/daycarechildcare-and-babywise.html; September 15, 2008 10:48 AM
Jessica said...: I couldn't find a "Starting BW Late" section so I will post here.

I was first introduced to BW when my daughter was around a month old and not napping, crying all the time, etc. Even just loosely implementing BW I can now tell you what time she will go to bed, wake in the morning, take both of her naps and eat her meals. I owe much of my sanity to BW.

I need some help with advising a friend. Her daughter is 6 months old, only naps through one sleep cycle (45 minutes - 1 hour), will sleep for 2-3 hours when first put down for the night but then wakes 3-4 times through the night to eat and will not sleep without her mother for the remainder of the night. Whew, yikes!

I feel so bad for my friend. She knows that she has allowed this to happen.

Where should she start first? She says that her little girl does not eat at the same times everyday. Should she work on getting her on a 3 hour schedule before tackling CIO at night? She says that her daughter will go down for naps, etc. without fussing but wakes and cannot go back to sleep without her Mommy.

I want to help her so badly and want to tell her "hey, let's sleep train one weekend and I will come over and watch the other girls to you can nap during the day."

Where in the world should she begin?

Thanks y'all!; January 28, 2009 6:23 PM
Plowmanators said...: Jessica,

I always say to work on the day first and usually the night will follow. See this post and let me know if you have further questions:

Starting Babywise Late: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2007/12/starting-babywise-late.html; February 3, 2009 1:52 PM
Jodi said...: This is the first time that I've tried to comment on a blog, so I have no idea if I'm doing it correctly or not. I actually have a question that I want to post, so if I'm posting to the wrong place, please someone let me know.

Here is my situation. My 11 week old son is on a very solid 3 hr schedule during the day (wake time is established at 8 am). He has dropped the 10 pm feeding, wakes up between 1-4 am (normally around 2 am but it can range anytime during this time period), takes a mostly full feeding and then goes directly back down. This has been going on for about 3-4 weeks now. Any suggestions for dropping the 2 am feeding? Should I do like the book says and just let him CIO for up to 45 min? How do I know that he's actually ready to drop this feeding? Also, when is it ok to start moving to a 3.5 to 4 hr schedule during the day? Someone told me to wait until he's sleeping through the night. Any suggestions/advice is greatly appreciated! Thanks.; March 30, 2009 11:52 AM
Plowmanators said...: Jodi,

There are a few things to consider. One is the number of feedings he has in a day. You want to be sure he has as many as he should for his age. Another is that at 11 weeks, to go 12 hours between feedings isn't really realistic. So I would first try to get him to take the 10 PM feeding.

Then you have to evaluate the 2 AM feeding. Since it ranges so much, it doesn't sound like he is waking out of habit. Habitual waking is pretty much down to the minute. I would say he is waking out of need since it ranges so much.

You don't want to move to the 4 hour schedule until he is sleeping 10-12 hours at night. See this post:

When to Move to a 4 hour Schedule: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2007/12/when-to-move-to-4-hour-schedule.html; April 16, 2009 3:47 PM
Bradley James said...: Hello! My son is now close to 8 months and I have a scheduling question. BW says to move to 4 liquid feedings a day, SuperBaby Food recommends 5 liquid feedings a day. Because my son will eat very well whether he is nursing or eating solids, I've chosen to keep nursing him 5 times a day. (Is that OK?) Also- right now I have him on a 3.5 hour schedule,
7:30 pumped 7oz & Solids
9:15 nap
11:00 pumped 7oz. bottle & solids
1:00 nap
2:30 nurse
6:00 nurse & solids (dinner w/family)
7:30 bath, nurse, bed

When I'm not working, I nurse him, otherwise I pump and offer him a 7oz bottle.

Does this seem "OK" to you? Any suggestions?; July 1, 2009 3:16 PM
Plowmanators said...: Yes, that is fine. BW actually says that some moms will need to do a 5th liquid feeding to ensure milk supply and that is fine. So no worries :)

Does he actually eat well at 7:30? If not, I would nurse him at 5:30 and then 7:30. As he gets more able to go longer between feedings, he can even go down to 4 liquid feedings and you could pump a 5th feeding before bed in order to ensure your milk supply.; July 23, 2009 8:34 PM
Bradley James said...: He eats very well at 7:30. Why do you ask? I actually pump at 5:30am before I leave for work.

Thanks for your reply!; July 23, 2009 8:41 PM
Bergon Family said...: Today has been really hard, my 8 week old is screaming her head off. She keeps waking early out of naps. It takes an hour to feed her and even then I have to supplement. I was going to keep her awake another hour, then put her down for an hour. Well, she started getting fussy and wouldn't play, so I rocked her a little, sang her a song and then put her down. She cried for 4 minutes, then woke out of her nap about 45 minutes into it. I let her cry, changed her diaper and put her back down. Now she has been crying for 15 minutes- not really normal for her. It's been a long hard road with breastfeeding and trying to schedule which I won't expand on now, but is it possible that some babies just don't need as much sleep as others- if I were to pick her up right now she would sooth instantly. I never know if she's hungry because we feed on a 3 hour schedule, but I supplement. The two weeks that I have tried breastmilk only, she was fussy and did not gain weight. I am at my wits end with breastfeeding and BW- particularly trying to get "full meals" in. I am not even sure what that means. What do I do?
-Laruren; July 27, 2009 7:41 PM
Plowmanators said...: Bradley James, I meant at 7:30 PM. You said you nurse at 6 and then again at 7:30.; August 9, 2009 10:25 PM
Plowmanators said...: Lauren,

8 weeks is 100% normal to wake 45 minutes into the nap. I would suggest you feed her when she gets up early.

At that young of an age, I don't recommend CIO mid-nap. First, try feeding her. If she eats well, you know she was hungry. If she isn't hungry and is just having a hard time transitioning. In that case, you can try a swing or rocking her or something.

A full meal means that baby takes all that she can/needs for that meal. To figure out out much she needs per meal, multiply her weight by 2.5. Then divide by the number of feedings in a day.; August 10, 2009 9:55 PM
Bradley James said...: I figured that out a little while after I posted, but thank you for the comment. I have been feeding him 4 times a day since he is now 9 months old and didn't seem to nurse well those last 3 feedings. When he wakes up from his afternoon nap I've been giving him a healthy snack, then up-ed his dinner time to 5:15.

Also- from another post you suggested to multiply a child's weight by 2.5, then divide that into the number of feedings per day. If I did that, it would mean 10oz at each feeding. Is that right? Or is that for babies before they begin solid foods.; August 10, 2009 11:01 PM
Plowmanators said...: That is probably before starting solids. I don't know for sure. At 12 months, I start counting ounces and I know then, baby should have around 24 ounces a day (give or take of course ;) ). So I woul imagine that a 10 month old should have at least that per day, likely more. It would be a good question for a pediatrition.; August 19, 2009 1:48 PM
Debbie Nash said...: Your website is OUTSTANDING! I thank you for what I assume is a tireless upkeep. Just when I become a little frustrated with my BW goals (I'm currently working on switching from a routine to a schedule with my 3 mo old.) I look to your website which each time has provided me with great comfort in knowing others have similar issues and offering good logical suggestions. It is an awesome source for moms and dads (my husband found your site) and we thank you very much. God Bless You.; October 21, 2009 12:51 PM
Plowmanators said...: Debbie, you are welcome and thank you for the sincere thanks!; November 23, 2009 11:32 AM

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