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How To Make Babywise Possible With Multiple Children


We have had a GREAT week full of posts addressing common Babywise myths and misconceptions. Emily is wrapping us up this week with a great post on how you can have more than one Babywise baby in your home.

Many people assume you get lucky with your first. Goodness, people still tell me I am lucky with my fourth. Even today. I am "lucky" Brinley still takes a nap each day at age four. How lucky is that? Lucky I started good sleep habits from the beginning! Lucky I sacrificed as needed to make sure she had a solid foundation! Lucky when she was three and would get upset every.single.day that it was time for her nap that I didn't just throw the nap out the window (even though I wanted to sometimes!). Yes, indeed, I am lucky.

"I think the reason people assume Babywise scheduling isn't possible with multiple children is because we do tend to "slack" more the more kids we have. You have to! Your life can't revolve around one child because you have more than one child. I'm here to say though that you don't have to veer off course just because you have more than one child under your roof! I'm living proof of it :)"

And so am I! My kids have come with different natural dispositions and different challenges, but we have been able to make Babywise work for our whole family all along the way. 

Emily has five specific ways to make Babywise work for your baby, no matter which baby it is for you. 


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Haters Miss the Point: Babywise is More Than Just Sleep {BFBN}


Cole's post today is great for pointing out what Babywise is all about, which is more than just sleep. It is also a great reminder to everyone who loves the first Babywise book that you have so much to gain from the subsequent books, also.

"On Becoming Babywise provides a practical system for creating order in the household. It establishes God and the marriage at the center of the family - NOT the children. It encourages a traditional parenting style that focuses on raising responsible adults. The fact that the first book covers infant sleep is circumstantial - it's because that's the first stage of a child's life - but the overarching precepts are carried out through each of the next seven books. The vast majority of the series is spent on aspects other than sleep - like physical, mental, and emotional development, learning, obedience, respect, correction, authority, character, and responsibility."

Cole always just says it like it is and I love that about everything she writes. Head on over and read her post on what Babywise is all about. 


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Babywise and Cry It Out (Or Don't) {BFBN}



How many people out there believe Babywise is synonymous with cry it out? Probably the vast majority, right? Today Carrie is talking all about that. She is talking about what Babywise does say and what it doesn't say in regard to CIO. 

"Every human being needs to learn how to self soothe and we all need to be able to put ourselves to sleep by ourselves. Is sleep training a part of this? Yes! Absolutely! Most babies are not born with this ability and need to be trained to do this. CIO is one way to do this, but it's not the only way. For my first three CIO, worked BEAUTIFULLY. If I rocked LK, she would just cry anyway. We did 2 nights of CIO and...she is still the best sleeper in our house. For Archer, for several reasons, we couldn't (because of room sharing) and just didn't WANT to CIO with him. We used the 4 S's (From Tracy Hogg's The Baby Whisperer) as our main sleep training method with him."

On the fence about Babywise because of the CIO idea? Be sure to read Carrie's post on it.

You can also read my post on this topic here: 


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Myth: Babywise Automatically Diminishes Milk Supply {BFBN Week}


Oh breastfeeding and Babywise. The myths that surround you. You won't have a enough supply. You will lose your supply. Even worse, your baby will have failure to thrive and probably even die!

But not true. 

Kimberly at Team Cartwright is a mother to three children, including twin girls she is still nursing at 10 months old. ON BABYWISE! Not only is she doing it, she is doing it with two. 

"I think I am a personal example of how scheduled feedings doesn't mean you will lose supply.  I nursed my son for 14 months.  The first six months were just breast milk, and solids were slowly added in after that.  I am going on 10 months of nursing my twins, the first seven being just breast milk before really starting solids, and I don't plan to end any time soon.  Yes, I know that is not every woman's story.  I know there are many reasons why nursing doesn't work.  But I am personal proof that scheduling feedings alone does not mean you will lose all your milk."


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Babywise Works For You (not the other way around) {BFBN}



""You make babywise work for YOU."  This is one of the main premises of the book - Babywise works for you.  You don't work for babywise.  And this is one of the reasons I LOVE babywise."

I have never thought of it in this way, and I love this point Natasha from Let's Be Brave brings up. I often say, "Let Your Schedule Serve You, You Don't Serve Your Schedule." This is the same idea. You are not a slave to the program. You are the parent in the "Parent Directed Feeding" program. That means you are the master. The boss. The head-honcho. Not the peon. 

" Babywise provides the skeleton for structure; it's a parenting tool.  It doesn't get to make demands of you or dictate exactly how you sleep train your baby.  That's all you, mama.  What it can do for you, however, is add support, structure, and a framework for getting your child on a schedule. "

Natahsa has such a unique perspective because she is a foster parent who has used Babywise with all of her children. She shares that Babywise has never failed her even though she has never had a child from day one of life. Go read the whole thing today! I super love it.


  • Monday: Valerie at Chronicles of a Babywise Mom talking about the Myths versus Realities of Babywise.
  • Tuesday: Katrina at Mama's Organized Chaos talking about the realities of Babywise and the schedule. Babywise isn't imposing a schedule; it is learning the ideal schedule.
  • Wednesday: Shea at The Moses Home will be talking about how having a schedule actually makes her babies MORE flexible. Natasha at Let's Be Brave is talking about how Babywise works for you; you don't work for Babywise. 
  • Thursday: Carrie at Wiley Adventures is talking about how Babywise and Cry It Out do (or don't) go together. Kimberly at Team Cartwright will be discussing how scheduled feedings do not diminish milk supply.
  • Friday: Cole at Twinning Babywise will be discussing the fact that Babywise isn't just about sleep. Emily at The Journey of Parenthood will finish us off talking about how Babywise is very possible with more thank one child. It isn't just luck! 
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How Schedules Keep Us Flexible, Not Rigid {BFBN}


Shea's story today starts out much like my own. She had a very similar first baby experience with starting without any parenting philosophy and then finding Babywise. As she dug into it, she found some push back online. She states:

"If you truly dig into the negative thoughts surrounding the book, you can easily assess that many of the people who are critical have yet to read the book all the way through, or they have not practiced/implemented the principles in their homes at all. So many speak without the true knowledge, and many more speak without real experience. You will not find me being critical of parenting styles in which I do not know much about or use in my home. It feels unfair to me to try to convince someone that one way is right when I have little know how regarding the practice. "

So much yes to that! Shea goes on to talk about how having a schedule has actually helped her babies be more flexible overall; not rigid. Head on over to her blog to read all about why and how this is true.



  • Monday: Valerie at Chronicles of a Babywise Mom talking about the Myths versus Realities of Babywise.
  • Tuesday: Katrina at Mama's Organized Chaos talking about the realities of Babywise and the schedule. Babywise isn't imposing a schedule; it is learning the ideal schedule.
  • Wednesday: Shea at The Moses Home will be talking about how having a schedule actually makes her babies MORE flexible. Natasha at Let's Be Brave is talking about how Babywise works for you; you don't work for Babywise. 
  • Thursday: Carrie at Wiley Adventures is talking about how Babywise and Cry It Out do (or don't) go together. Kimberly at Team Cartwright will be discussing how scheduled feedings do not diminish milk supply.
  • Friday: Cole at Twinning Babywise will be discussing the fact that Babywise isn't just about sleep. Emily at The Journey of Parenthood will finish us off talking about how Babywise is very possible with more thank one child. It isn't just luck! 
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Babywise Isn't Imposing a Schedule, it's Learning the Ideal Schedule {BFBN Week}


I love this concept from Katrina at Mama's Organized Chaos. Babywise is all about learning the ideal schedule! Would it be awesome to have a baby sleep until 8 AM each day? Yes! And some babies do! There are others, however, who wake up at 7 no matter what. My oldest was (and is) like that. Mamas with big dreams of sleeping in have to hang that dream up and go with the ideal schedule for their individual baby. Why? Because that is what Babywise is. Babywise is learning about your individual baby and going with what is best for him/her. 

Katrina says:

"Today I'd like to address something that I'm very passionate about: Babywise Isn't Imposing a Schedule, it's Learning the Ideal Schedule. This is a very important idea that often gets lost (unless you've read the book).

The myths:
Using Babywise will starve your baby and cause failure to thrive
Babywise requires you to hyper-schedule

I kept seeing failure to thrive, failure to thrive, all over the internet. And I kept thinking...did we read the same book!? Nowhere in the Babwise book, does it mention to leave your baby to cry if they are hungry. In fact, it says quite the opposite. "



The ladies of the BFBN will be discussing these myths this week, also. Here is the schedule:
  • Monday: Valerie at Chronicles of a Babywise Mom talking about the Myths versus Realities of Babywise.
  • Tuesday: Katrina at Mama's Organized Chaos talking about the realities of Babywise and the schedule. Babywise isn't imposing a schedule; it is learning the ideal schedule.
  • Wednesday: Shea at The Moses Home will be talking about . Natasha at Let's Be Brave is talking about how Babywise works for you; you don't work for Babywise. 
  • Thursday: Carrie at Wiley Adventures is talking about how Babywise and Cry It Out do (or don't) go together. Kimberly at Team Cartwright will be discussing how scheduled feedings do not diminish milk supply.
  • Friday: Cole at Twinning Babywise will be discussing the fact that Babywise isn't just about sleep. Emily at The Journey of Parenthood will finish us off talking about how Babywise is very possible with more thank one child. It isn't just luck! 

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Myths versus Realities of Babywise

Myths versus realities of Babywise

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My first child was basically born back when dinosaurs roamed the Earth so far as the Internet is concerned. The Internet existed, but it wasn't on the top five list of places you would turn to for information. Because of that, my husband and I happily parented him, our Babywise baby, for two years before we even realized there was any sort of controversy surrounding On Becoming Babywise.

It was when my second child was born and had reflux that I looked to the Internet for Babywise help (plus dinosaurs had gone extinct, so enlightenment had begun). I wanted to know how people with reflux babies also did Babywise and I figured the Internet was just the place to find them. 

You can imagine my utter shock when I did a simple Google search! I was baffled. Absolutely flabbergasted. Could these people have possibly read the same book I did?!? The reality is the vast majority of people making claims online about what Babywise "says" have not in fact read the book. They have only read other people's claims about the book. There are some, however, who have read the book, which leaves me confused. Anyway, I was in shock that day. I had loved Babywise in the two years that I had been using it. This was nearly a decade ago, and really "in those days" there was nothing but negative commentary about Babywise online. Anyone who did Babywise kept mum about it for fear of being bullied. The fear was justified.

I hated that moms felt scared to share how they parented. It sad to the moms who had to "hide" how they parented. Moms who had to just smile and shrug when people said, "How did you ever get so lucky?!?" or "What is your secret!" It was also sad to the moms who would never hear the positive there is about Babywise. The moms who would try it if not for the negative comments. The families who would benefit immensely from the program.

I started this blog to get positive information out there. Slowly, over time, more and more people have been willing to be open about parenting with Babywise, and more and more people are therefore realizing it isn't what the horror stories are made of. 

One of my first missions was to battle the myths surrounding Babywise. Over the course of the first four months of this blog existing, I wrote a series refuting the common myths of the day surrounding Babywise. 

Something fascinating happened over time. As people with Babywise spoke out more, and therefore other people saw that Babywise babies were very happy, alert, and intelligent little cuties, the myths left baby land. It was no longer "Here is the list of terrible things that will happen to your baby if you do Babywise." It turned to "Here is the list of terrible things that will happen to your child if you do Babywise." The baby thing had been soundly proven wrong, but the babies and toddlers of this generation of mothers were still young enough that claims could be made that as soon as they turned five or six, the child would turn into a complete mess--all because of Babywise.

Enough time has passed now that I think that has started to be dampened, also. All of those babies and toddlers from 7-8 years ago are preteens and still managing to function very well in life. In fact, many anti-babywise groups died off in the last couple of years. 

Let me quickly note that I am in no way claiming Babywise is the answer for every family. It isn't necessarily a good fit for everyone. That's fine. I do not believe there is only one right way to raise a child. 

I am, however, emphatically saying that using Babywise will NOT damage your baby if you follow the guidelines. I am saying your child will NOT become incapable of functioning in society. I am saying I love Babywise and if I had to do it all over again, I would follow the same path. My children currently range from 4-11.5 and I have no hint of regret with the way we have raised them so far. 

Despite the progress over the years, there is often still great misunderstanding. In order to shed some light on this, the ladies of the Babywise Friendly Blog Network (BFBN) and I are going to spend the week addressing some myths. Today I want to discuss the basic myths versus realities of Babywise.




As I stated, I once dedicated an entire series to combating these myths. This one is my personal favorite: 

 Here are the rest of myth-busting posts:

Myths versus realities of Babywise

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Poll Discussion Results: Breastfeeding


Time to look at results from the discussion on breastfeeding! This was a very interesting group of information to read. With my minor in college, I did a lot of studies and love analyzing and looking at data.

This analysis might not be perfect--it likely isn't. I have only gone through it one time, and ideally I would like to check the numbers at least five times, but let's be real--I have a newborn and I just can't spend that time there. You are more than welcome to go through the data yourself. It is all there in the post I linked above. I have made a comment (comment number 64) where I collected the data up to. 

I have 94 responses. I think I might have missed one or two twins, so there could have been 96 maybe.

Here are the questions I asked:

  1. Did you intend/want to breastfeed when your baby was born?
  2. Did you breastfeed for any length of time?
  3. If yes, for how long did you breastfeed (until what age)?
  4. When you stopped breastfeeding, what was the reason (your choice, baby's choice, lack of milk...)?
  5. Share any other thoughts you think might be of interest.
Here are the answers:

Did you intend/want to breastfeed when your baby was born?

90 of the 94 said "yes" to this question. It should be noted that two that said no were parents of twins who are a dad/dad family, so yes was not even an option. So for the 92 that had it as an option, 90 said yes and 2 said no.  

That puts 98% of parents responding to this survey who had the ability to breastfeed intending to breastfeed.


Did you breastfeed for any length of time?

We had the same numbers here. 90 out of 94 times, the mother breastfed for some amount of time. Once again, we have the twins with dad/dad family, so 90 of the 92 who were able, breastfed for an amount of time. And one interesting tidbit is the two that didn't intend are not the exact two who did not; one mom intended but was unable due to a NICU stay. One mom who didn't intend to did after all.

We once again have 98%. 98% breastfed for an amount of time. According to this study, statistically about 74% started off breastfeeding. So already, we are ahead of the norm. 

If yes, for how long did you breastfeed (until what age)?

We are now at 90 people who started off breastfeeding their baby.

7 breastfed until sometime in the 0-6 week range. (8%)
2 breastfed up until 6 weeks-3 months old. (2%)
8 breastfed up until 4-6 months old. (9%)
10 breastfed up until 7-9 months old.  (11%)
10 breastfed up until 10-11 months old. (11%)
9 breastfed until 12 months old. (10%)
13 breastfed until 13-15 months old. (14%)
3 breastfed until 16-18 months old. (3%)
3 breastfed until 18-24 months old. (3%)
0 breastfed beyond two years old. (0%)
25 were still breastfeeding, ranging from the newborn months to beyond 15 months old. (28%)

Now, if you take the 65 responses of people who had finished breastfeeding at some point, 74% of them breastfed 7 months or longer. The study I referred to earlier found that 43% of the people who started breastfeeding were still breastfeeding at 6 months. Here we have 74% at 7 months and older--this isn't including those that stopped at 6 months (there were quite a few). I would say that is a significant increase over the national average.

Of the 65 responses who had stopped breastfeeding, 43% of babies were breastfed at some point as a one year old. Compare that to the same study, only 23% got any breast milk as a one year old. Again, a significant difference.

Another interesting note is that some of the babies were weaned at a certain age from breastfeeding, but the moms still pumped milk and fed in a bottle. For those babies, the stats are that they were weaned at the age they literally stopped breastfeeding. So the number of babies getting breastmilk is higher than what is shown.


When you stopped breastfeeding, what was the reason (your choice, baby's choice, lack of milk...)?

Remember, we have 65 who have weaned.

33 (51%) weaned because mom chose to. 
7 (11%) weaned because baby chose to. For some, baby showed lack of interest so mom decided it was time to stop.
9 (14%) stopped due to milk issues. For four of the 9, milk never came in. For two, milk tanked after returnign to work. Only three had milk issues after having started breastfeeding with no other reason stated other than milk supply was the reason. That is 5%.
12 (18%) stopped for a medical reason. For one, it was no latch. For some, it was medication mom was taking. Most were due to pregnancy.
4 (6%) had a different reason (other). One was because the family was on vacation and breastfeeding was stressful. Two were because mom would be away from baby on vacation. The fourth was due to a move.

So with all of these moms, 5% stopped breastfeeding due to an unexplained milk supply issue. That is a pretty small number when you consider the rounds of "Babywise causes milk supply to drop" you hear from Babywise haters. I don't have numbers, but I would very easily say that 5% is not any higher than the national average of moms who stop breastfeeding due to supply issues that can't be explained by some obvious reasons. Even 14% I would guess is easily in line with what is typical, if not below, the national average. 

Conclusions
For anyone concerned about what Babywise does to milk supply, I hope this simple survey can shed some light on the reality of the situation. Babywise moms can be successful breastfeeders--just like any other parenting philosphy mom. Babywise moms have higher success rates than the national average. Can you breastfeed while following Babywise? Absolutely yes!
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Reasons Babywise Worked for our Family

Babywise worked great for us with both of our kids!
And none of the typical anti-Babywise myths were true.
1.  My son was sleeping through the night by 8 weeks old, and our daughter was sleeping through the night by 6 months.  All with no crying it out.
2.  I exclusively breastfed both babies and I had no supply issues.  Unless you count oversupply an 'issue'.  With my first baby I was able to donate over 100 ounces that I pumped and never used.  That was in addition to him getting 90% of his breastmilk 'straight from the tap'.
3.  Neither of my babies suffered from Failure to Thrive.  My first baby was always over 50% for height and weight.  He was usually right around 75%.  My daughter is much smaller but she is very healthy and thriving.  She is meeting all her developments right on target.
My favorite things about Babywise are:
1.  My kids both love their beds.  I love my bed and sleeping so it's important to me that my kids feel the same.  I can put my 10 month old baby in her crib at naptime, or bedtime, wide awake and she goes to sleep without a peep.  As a matter of fact, she woke up early from her nap today and the only way I know that is because I happened to check the monitor.  Only to find her sitting in her crib talking to herself.
2.  My family is able to plan outings while still making sure that my kids are well rested and taken care of. I know when my kids need to take their naps so I can plan my day around that.
3.  "Start as you mean to go on" is also important to me and I don't want to have my kids learn that they fall asleep only in my arms or laying next to me only to change it up on them some day and confuse and upset them.  I will hold and cuddle my kids at bedtime for sure but they don't need it to go to sleep.   It's just an extra bonus when it happens.
4.  Going from no babies to 1 was a very easy transition for me and my family.  I had a good routine established and we had a good sleep and eating routine also.   Going from 1 to 2 kids was easy as well.  The new baby got into a good routine fairly quickly so I could plan on spending some good time alone with my son while she napped.  It was great!
5.  I have met some great women through Babywise!  Most of them are online but I still refer to them as my 'friends'.  
I can't say enough good things about Babywise. 

Christine - mother of two
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How Is A Babywise Mom Defined?


I was reflecting on what it means to be a "babywise mom." What is a babywise mom like? What actions does she take as a parent? It struck me how very diverse babywise moms are. Let me elaborate.

Among babywise moms, you will find a whole spectrum of parenting practices. You will find moms who would label themselves as crunchy (for those who don't know, "crunchy" is the new "granola"). One mom commented based on the definition of crunchy that she must be "soggy" :). You will find moms who cloth diaper and moms who use disposable diapers. You will find moms to do early potty training and moms who use diapers until the child is begging to wear underwear.

If you talk to a group of Babywise moms, you will find moms who breastfeed for a year. You will find moms who follow extended breastfeeding far beyond a year. You will find moms who breastfeed from every interval between 0-12 months. You will meet moms who have never breastfed and feed formula. You will also find moms who label themselves as "exclusive pumpers" and pump milk to feed their babies through bottles.

You will find moms who follow baby led weaning and moms who stick to purees until baby is a bit older. You will get to know moms who birth at home with a midwife and moms who birth at the hospital and an epidural, and everything in between.

You will find moms who are "stay at home" moms and moms who work at least forty hours per week, and everything in between. You will meet moms who work from home. You will meet moms trying to start up new businesses.

You will meet crafty moms, funny moms, smart moms, shy moms, bold moms, musical moms, creative moms, and logical moms. Extroverts and introverts are among us. Those who love the limelight and those happy to stand to the side and watch all make up our large circle of babywise moms.

We represent many religious beliefs. There are Christian moms, Atheist/Agnostic moms, Jewish moms, and Buddhist moms, among others.

We have vegetarian moms and meat-loving moms. We have moms who are organic only and moms who use whatever is available.

We have moms who homeschool, moms who are private school only, and moms who love public school.

Some babywise moms follow the AAP on vaccination recommendations. Others take a slower vaccination approach. And others don't vaccinate at all.

Wow! We have a lot of diversity among us! It is not so easy to put us in a box and label us. We have many moms who are polar opposites on today's hot-button issues.

Now, here is the part I think is so neat. We get along really well. Really, really well. Why is that?

I think we all have some important things in common.

Most of all, we believe in respecting others. We believe that other people are precious--even when they don't agree with us. We believe in good manners, even when the other person is some unknown face on the other side of a computer screen half a world away. We treat people online the same as we would treat them face to face.

I believe that is the key to why we get along well. I am a member of several Babywise groups online. Over the last couple of years, I have noticed that we as a whole have gone from discussing only "babywise" related topics to discussing all parenting topics in these groups. We value the opinions of each other. Many of us are big into personal research and like to study things out for ourselves.

I see these hot-button issues discussed over and over. There are always moms who feel very passionate on each side of the coin, and they are always respectful toward each other. I see more hot-button topics in the Chronicles Yahoo Group than any other. They are wonderful! They are full of insight and you really come to understand the reasoning behind the beliefs of others. There is no name calling. No "low blows." Just discussion among adults.

This is something 100% unique to Babywise groups. I haven't seen it in any other group that I have been a part of online.

I think some Babywise parents start Babywise only concerned about getting eating and sleeping on track. I think that is where I was when I first started with Brayden. I soon saw there was so much more to offer. I saw that because eating and sleeping were on track, I could focus on training him to be a good person. A person who respects people, loves people, and serves people. A person who was a hard, honest worker. A person who valued learning and a person who could control and discipline himself in pursuit of greater goals. These were goals that were far superior in the grand scheme of things than eating and sleeping--the eating and sleeping were just excellent stepping stones to enable us to work on these things.

Yes, we babywise moms value structure and predictability. But more than that, we share a common ultimate parenting goal, and we understand that the many hows along the way, like cloth vs. disposable diapers, do not interfere with our end "why" goal.

So thank you babywise moms for being so great. And thank you to the moms who read this blog but wouldn't define themselves as "babywise moms." You are also always kind and respectful even when disagreeing.
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Index: Myths

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Sleep Training According to Babywise

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There are a lot of misconceptions about what sleep training is according to Babywise. Many people have come to assume that in order to be successful with the Babywise program, you need to put your baby in bed awake and leave him there until the next feeding time, no matter what. This is never actually stated in Babywise, however.

My personal view on what sleep training is according to Babywise has been that you need to figure it out for yourself. You know from reading On Becoming Baby Wise that you want your baby to be able to fall asleep on his own. You also know that it says it might take some crying to achieve this. But there is no step-by-step program in Babywise about how to teach to self-soothe.

With Brayden, I read no books to help me know how to teach him to self-soothe. I created a program myself based on what I knew about him. With Kaitlyn, I used a similar method but modified it for her personality. With McKenna, I had read The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems and decided to try out her four S's idea to help McKenna self-soothe (see Sleep Training: The Four S's ). She slept for over two months without ever crying at all. At three months, we started CIO but it was very short lived, I believe because she already had the self-soothing skills.

There is nothing wrong with reading other books to help guide you through the CIO process or to help you teach your child to self-soothe without CIO. There is the method by Ferber in Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems, the method by Weissbluth in Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, and the method by Hogg in The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems. I know there are many more books out there. I, myself, have written guides on how to do CIO successfully on this blog (see related posts below). I hope that as you read these books and blog posts, you will take them as good information and not solid doctrine. You really do need to apply what is best for your individual child. All three of my children have taken three different paths toward self-soothing. The end result is the same. How you get there is not what is important. Figure out what works for your child.

Is it hard? Yes! It is hard to get to know this new little person. There are many important variables to cover. For example, McKenna likes to wear socks for naps. She sleeps better if she has them on. Kaitlyn slept better without socks. Figuring this out will not happen in two different naps sessions. There are too many other factors to consider to be able to just do one nap with socks ad one without to see which your baby prefers. This is something you figure out over time. It will take a lot of thought and effort on your part.

Finally, my friend Rachel did a summary of what Babywise says about sleep training called Sleep Training- BabyWise. I encourage you to read it so you can see at a glance what sleep training is according to Babywise. The method is very ambiguous. This is a common theme among the books. The books focus more on "why" than "how." I know that is frustrating for some, but understand that it really is best in the long run. There are plenty of books out there that can offer you good ideas on how to accomplish your goals, such as The Baby Whisperer. I try to offer them here, also. But if you don't understand why, you won't ever be able to be consistent on your own. Remember that as you are sleep training, you need to design the best course of action for your individual child.

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