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What to Do When Your Toddler Cries at Nap Time

What to Do When Your Toddler Cries at Nap Time. Ten common reasons toddlers cry before nap time and what to do each time.

What to Do When Your Toddler Cries at Nap Time. Ten common reasons toddlers cry before nap time and what to do each time.


After going through all of the effort to teach your baby to sleep well, it can be unsettling and unnerving if your toddler starts to cry at nap time. 

While solving a baby's nap issues can be tricky, it is more straight forward than solving a toddler's nap issues. The older children get, the more complex and individual they become. In this post, I discuss various reasons a toddler might start crying before nap time and how to respond to each scenario. 

For this post, I am assuming your toddler has been a good sleeper in the past and was taught and expected to sleep independently already. The crying is different than how things have been in life for your toddler up to this point. 

Toddler is Crying Because of a Sleep Regression

Since you have made it this far into your parenting journey, a sleep regression is nothing new to you. You know all about sleep regressions and what they mean. This is when your toddler suddenly stops sleeping well and seemingly for no reason. If this is a literal regression, there is nothing you can do but wait it out.

At this point you should know your toddler well enough to have a good idea of how to respond and how not to respond during a sleep regression. Does your toddler need to just blow off some steam for a minute before settling down? If yes, just let her be. Does your toddler tend to do better if you go in and address her somewhat? If yes, go in.

Nap and Bedtime Concerns for Preschoolers

Nap and Bedtime Concerns for Preschoolers. How to know when to drop naps all together and what to do if your child stays up playing in bed past bedtime.

Nap and Bedtime Concerns for Preschoolers. How to know when to drop naps all together and what to do if your child stays up playing in bed past bedtime.

Sleep concerns and questions do not end when your child leaves babyhood behind her. You continue to wonder when to drop naps and worry about how quickly they fall asleep. These issues are both being addressed today.

How to Get Your Baby to Nap

How to get your baby to take great naps. Tips for getting healthy sleep.

How to get your baby to take great naps. Tips for getting healthy sleep.

It can take a lot of work to get baby to take great naps. You ultimately want your baby to have most naps each day be 1.5-2.5 hours long. Some babies will easily fall into nice sleep patterns, but others take more troubleshooting and work. This post outlines the basics for getting your baby to be able to take great naps. 

Keep Waketime Length Appropriate

If you want your baby to be able to fall asleep and stay asleep for a nap, you need to have waketime length appropriate. Waketime length is the amount of time your baby is awake from the time she wakes up to the time she goes down for the next nap. This time includes the amount of time spent to feed and diaper her. For help with this, see:

Watch for Sleepy Cues

When you are working on getting waketime length right, knowing sleep cues is invaluable. Watch for sleepy cues so you know when your baby needs to go down for a nap. This helps you time things correctly even when your baby needs to go down at a different time than usual (this can happen when baby is sick, having a growth spurt, etc.). See this post for help:

Have a Sleep Routine

A sleep routine is something you do before each nap or bedtime to help set the stage for sleep. This triggers to your baby to know it is time for sleeping. The routine can be different for bedtime and naptime. For help finding the best routine for you, see:

Set Up the Sleep Environment

You want the place your baby sleeps to be conducive to a nap happening. You want it to be quiet (this is a great sound machine - affiliate). You want the lighting to be right for your baby. Some are okay with some light while others need it quite dark. You want your baby dressed comfortably. You want the room at the best temperature. See these posts for more: 

Teach Baby To Sleep Unassisted

Sleep training is invaluable to getting your baby to the point of taking great naps. There are many sleep training methods out there and you can choose the method that works best for you and your baby. The goal is to have baby capable of falling asleep alone and unassisted. The method you use to achieve that goal is not important. 
Here are some resources I have to help with naps:
The Babywise Mom Nap Guide how to get baby to take naps

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The Babywise Nap Guide is my newest eBook. It is full of every detail you need for setting up amazing naps for your baby. 

The Babywise Mom Book of Logs

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This is a link to my comprehensive sleep page on this blog. This page lists every post you need to get your baby sleeping well. Read about the best products to get baby sleeping here. 

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The Best Baby Sleep Training Books to Get Baby Sleeping

The Best Baby Sleep Training Books to Get Baby Sleeping. Different sleep training methods to get baby to sleep through the night and take great naps.

You never really realize how much you love and need sleep until you are no longer in control of when you do and don't sleep. Sure, we all had late nights as teens and college kids. Sure, we had nights we couldn't sleep. Those do not prepare you for what it feels like to be completely and consistently sleep deprived. Add to that they knowledge you have of the importance of sleep on brain development, and getting baby to sleep becomes a desperate quest.

The Best Baby Sleep Training Books to Get Baby Sleeping. Different sleep training methods to get baby to sleep through the night and take great naps.


There are a lot of great resources out there to help you with sleep. Here are some of my favorite books for helping you to understand sleep and sleep train your baby. This post contains affiliate links.

Baby Sleep Training Books

On Becoming Babywise by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam
This is of course my first recommendation for getting your baby to have great sleep habits. When I had my first two children, this was the only thing I had in my arsenal. While the book does not talk much at all about sleep training, it lays a great foundation for a great daily routine to allow for healthy sleep. 






The Babywise Mom Nap Guide by Valerie Plowman
If I didn't think it was needed, I wouldn't have written it. My husband tells me I didn't talk this book up enough--that just isn't my style, though :). This book is very helpful for getting great naps. I often say to get the daytime figured out and the night will follow and fall into place. I don't know about you, but at night, I want baby back asleep as fast as possible. I don't want to analyze a sleep training process during the night. if I can get daytime perfected and have night then follow without work, I am all for it. 





Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth
This is my favorite book for just overloading you on information on sleep. The importance of sleep, the mechanics of sleep, the cycles of sleep, the patterns of sleep...it is all there. He also talks about different methods to sleep train and solve sleep issues. I first read this when my third child was a baby and I have loved it ever since. 





The Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg
This is a two-book recommendation. We have Secrets of the Baby Whisperer and The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems. These books are invaluable for you getting to know your child as an individual and accept those quirks. I read these during my pregnancy with my third child, and this is where I discovered the Four S's Sleep Training Technique. This is my hands down favorite way to do sleep training, so this book is a must-read in my opinion. No one likes having to do cry it out sleep training, so if you can make the Four S's work as a no-cry sleep solution, oh happy day.


The Wonder Weeks by Frans Plooij, Hetty van de Rijt, and Xaviera Plas
This book doesn't so much give sleep training help, but it is a must-own to have in your library when you are sleep training a baby. This book helps you know when there are developmental leaps. There are ages a baby just isn't going to sleep well. There are ages sleep regressions happen, no matter how great of a sleeper the baby is. Having this knowledge helps you approach sleep training the best way you can.




Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems by Richard Ferber
Of course everyone knows about the Ferber method of sleep training. This is not a book I read while I had babies, so I offer this up as a consideration for you because it is wildly popular and used by so many. I am all about knowledge and getting all you can, especially when it comes to sleep training a baby. What works for one will not work for another, so the more tools you have in your back pocket, the more likely you will reach baby sleep success. 




Moms On Call by Laura Hunter and Jennifer Walker
This is a book I have not read at all. I have heard the ideas are very compatible with Babywise, but that it is much more hardcore than Babywise. From what I understand, it is more of a "do exactly this" book than a "figure out the best option for your individual baby" book. If that appeals to you, give this book a try. 






The Contented Little Baby Book by Gina Ford
This is another one I have not read. I am adding it because it is a common book people turn to for sleep advice. If you have exhausted the books above, look into this one and see if it will offer you further insight. 







Conclusion

Sleep training is not easy. Whether you are using a no-cry sleep training method, extinction sleep training, or some hybrid, it is a hard road. These books can help you get through. They have worked for thousands of parents and babies. These sleep training books can work for you.

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The Babywise Mom Nap Guide: How to establish successful naps from birth through the preschool years

The Babywise Mom Nap Guide how to get baby to take naps

Of all of the questions I get on my Babywise Mom blog, the topic most frequently inquired of is naps. How to get baby to take a nap? Why won't baby nap? Why does baby wake up after 45 minutes? How can I get baby to sleep?

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Because of this, I bring to you The Babywise Mom Nap Guide: How to establish successful naps from birth through the preschool years. In this book, I disucss the following:
  • Nap goals (what your goals should be for naps)
  • Waketime length (common optimal waketime lengths for all ages and how to calculate it)
  • Growth spurts (when they typically happen and what to do when they do)
  • Short naps (how to solve those short nap issues and what to do when baby wakes early)
  • Sleep totals (how much sleep your child should be getting by age, baby through teen)
  • Sleep transtions (understanding what a sleep transition is and when they happen)
  • Dropping naps (everything you need to know about dropping naps from baby naps on to rest time for your preschooler)
  • Sleep cues (understanding sleep cues)
  • Sleep routines (what to include in your sleep routine)
  • Sleep regressions (when sleep regressions happen and what to do when they happen)
  • Sleep props (what is a sleep prop, what isn't, and when it is okay to use a sleep prop)
You can find tons of nap information on this blog. What the book does for you is consolidate the information and put everything you need to know about naps in one place. This way you don't have to search through the entire blog and bounce around looking for the information you need.

I am selling the book for an introductory price of $9.99. You can order here and get an instant download. It is super easy! This price will go up, so get your copy now. 

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Essential Elements to Any Babywise Bedroom

In this post, I talk about how to set your Babywise baby or child's bedroom up for optimal sleep. 

If you want a baby or child to sleep well, you need to do more than just plop the child down and say, "sleep." If you want to have great sleep results, you need to have great sleep prep. These elements listed below will help your baby or child sleep better and help you, as a Babywise mom, be on top of sleep to set it up for success.

Essential Elements to Any Babywise Bedroom


My oldest spent his first six moths without a bedroom. He also spent his first six months taking 45 minute naps and waking up once a night most nights. Once we moved him to sleep in his own room (the bathroom, but his own all the same), he started taking two hour naps and sleeping through the night! There is something to be said for having a place to sleep that is set up for successful sleep.

How to Set Up a Nursery or Bedroom for Good Sleep

Crib
Your baby needs a place to sleep, and a place that is comfortable and safe. A crib is an obvious choice. A bassinet might be a better choice for your baby at the time. For toddlers, you might do a toddler bed or a big bed. Whatever the exact type of bed is comfortable for your child and a safe space (which will be dependent on age).

Curtains
I love curtains for a lot of reasons. They can help block out light, which is helpful if your child doesn't sleep well in bright spaces. They can help muffle outside sounds, which is helpful if you live in a noisy area. They also help keep room temperature more constant, which is very nice for really hot or really cold times of year. 

Sound Machine
I love a sound machine for helping a baby or child sleep well, especially if it is for a child that is anything but the oldest. People can be noisy. Neighbors can be noisy. Pets can be noisy. It is nice to be able to have a sound machine that helps blocks out sounds of everyone in the home.

Every 45 minutes, your baby or child will transition sleep cycles. When this happens, your baby will come out of sleep, close to waking, then go back to sleep. If there is something to wake baby up, that transition will not happen. So if a loud noises happens at the transition, baby will likely wake. That is why a sound machine can be super helpful to aide in good sleep. You can read up more on sleep transitions here. Also, if you are concerned about a sleep prop situation happening, read up on sleep props here.

Monitor
When you are getting to know your baby, her sleep cues, and figure out the best waketime length, it a monitor is super helpful. Ignorance is bliss, but knowledge is power. If you know how well your baby slept, then you know if the condition for that sleep were right or not. 

Essential Elements to Any Babywise Bedroom | Babywise | Baby sleep | #babysleepOnce things are well-established and baby is loud enough for you to hear without a monitor, you can turn it off so you don't here every little peep. You need to be equipped with the power of knowledge before you move to bliss.

Comfortable Chair
A comfortable chair can do a lot for a bedtime routine no matter the age of your baby or child. A comfortable chair can be where you sit to nurse a baby. This is great for a baby to not get distracted and take in a full feeding. A comfortable chair can be where you do the "sit" portion of the Four S's when you teach your newborn to fall asleep alone. 

A comfortable chair can also be where you sit together to have a nice bedtime store before bed with your child. A consistent routine is vital to having great naps. To get great sleep, you need a consistent routine, no matter the age. 

Conclusion
If you are following Babywise, you are doing so in large part for the good sleep. Theese five elements will help you in your quest for consistent naps and night sleep.

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How to Put Baby Back to Sleep

There come times when your little one will wake up early but not be hungry. In those moments, you really want your baby to go back to sleep. It is hard to get a baby to go back to sleep after a nice 45 minute "power nap." 


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I recently wrote on what to do when your baby woke early but wasn't hungry. Several readers shared what they did. Here are 14 moms' tips on how to put a baby back to sleep after early waking from a nap. 

Natalie said:  Depends on the age - for newborn we would transfer to swing to at least make a go at a full nap! Now with an older baby (mine is 16 months), if he wakes up early I let him be. Sometimes he will cry a bit and go back to sleep, sometimes, he will wake up and roll around and play and never go back to sleep (but I still won't get him up until nap "time" is over). Use your gut instinct, however - if he wakes up screaming and is very upset, I will get him up early and assume he had a bad dream/is teething/not feeling well.


Kimberly said: For younger babies the pacifier and bouncer if they really need the sleep. For older babies I give a soft book or simple board book. A few minutes of looking at it and my little ones usually go right back to sleep.


Krista said: The swing! Anytime before about 3 months with my second if he woke early, I put him in the swing. Never to start, but if he woke early. And about 85% of the time he would go back to sleep until I woke him to start the next cycle.


Sarah said: When I put him down I lay him on his tummy, tuck his head to the side and pat his butt a couple of times. If he wakes up from a nap and stays on his tummy I ignore like I would at night. If he moves around I'll go in and "reset" the bedtime space by flipping him back, tucking his head and patting his butt and walking back out .


Christina said:  I leave a book in the corner of the crib sometimes. Or else just let my daughter self soothe back to sleep if it’s only been an hour or two. 95% of the time she will go back to sleep. Today my daughter woke a half hour early, but with molars and getting over a nasty cold, she was up for good.


Elisabeth said: I can't hear him... and he usually goes back down all by himself. Clever boy! (Sometimes he wants his back rubbed or face stroked - but not often)


Kelly said: Young baby: Rub their back and shush or gentle shake the crib. Pick up put down method. Older baby: rock for a minute until calm. CIO. And honestly if they are older I adjust the schedule for the rest of the day. Toddler: books but by toddler I expect mine to stay in bed and play with their stuffed animals until it's time for nap time to be over.


Brittney said: Swing, then that stopped working, so rocked, then that stopped working, so baby carrier, then that stopped working so I just leave him to roll around until he starts to cry then call naptime over at that point!

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Jennifer said: Leave the baby in the crib for at least 15-20 min and see if baby will self soothe back to sleep.


Robin said: Nothing! My children have always fallen back to sleep on their own if left alone.


Lourens said: Dummy them again if they take the dummy ðŸ˜œðŸ˜œturn them on their other side, throw a light blankie over their face....wait hope and pray ☺️


Nikki said: Quiet crib time! At least they are relaxing their bodies and not being overstimulated.


Amanda said: Swing!!!


Kehly said: Any advice for when they fall asleep in the car seat and you get home, place car seat still in quiet room, and they wake?! Baby #2 and still haven't found a way around this, besides driving around forever! Can't do that with a fidgety toddler in the car!


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How to Deal with the 45-Minute Intruder

The 45-minute intruder is when your baby wakes up 45 minutes into the nap. The 45-minute intruder can be quite stressful for you as a parent. This is true whether your child has always been a 45-minute napper or if your child suddenly started taking short naps at some point. Here are some tips for dealing with the 45-minute intruder.

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1-Try to Figure Out "Why"
The first thing to do is to try to figure out why your child is waking after 45 minutes. Knowing why will allow you to address it appropriately. Unfortunately, figuring out why usually involves a lot of trial and error.

How to Deal with the 45-Minute Intruder | baby sleep | baby naps | short naps | #babysleepThe first thing to consider is a growth spurt. You always want to to treat it like a growth spurt first. You want to feed baby when hungry, so make sure baby isn't hungry before you try other solutions. Growth spurts happen every 3-4 weeks usually, so it is frequently!

If it isn't hunger, I always consider sickness, pain, or teething next. Trying to address sound or light when it is a sickness or pain will get you know where but feeling guilty when you figure it out. Make it a habit to always consider the possibility of pain or sickness right after you consider hunger. 

Another common reason for a baby waking early from a nap is being overly tired. You want to make sure you get that waketime length right. Know your baby's Optimal Waketime Lengths. And realize that what is optimal at 14 weeks will be different from what was optimal at 10 weeks. This is a constantly moving target. Babies keep you on your toes for...ever basically :). Read up on  The Cornerstone for Good Naps for help on how to get that waketime length right, complete with a nice infographic.

Other common reasons for waking early include learning a new skill, wonder weeks, light, and noise. See a comprehensive list of reasons and what to do about it in my Troubleshooting Naps post.

2-Know the Sleep Hierarchy
I have sleep hierarchy for different ages. I have different rules I apply based on age. Read more here:
3-Honestly Look at Your Baby's Self-Soothing Ability
All babies transition at right about 45 minutes into a nap. If your baby can't put him or herself to sleep alone, then there is a good chance baby will wake from that nap fully at 45 minutes rather than settling back down into sleep for another cycle. For more information, read

What is a Sleep Transition (and How Does It Impact Naps.


If your baby uses some sort of prop to fall asleep, there is a good chance you will encounter a run with the 45-minute intruder. If your baby can't fall asleep alone, your baby will need your help at that 45-minute mark. This is the time to consider, is it the pacifier? Is it the rocking baby to sleep? Honestly look at your sleep routine and decide if you want to continue it or if you want to try to remove props. People go both ways. 

4-Give Baby Time To Go Back To Sleep
When Kaitlyn (my second child) was a baby, I remember one day she woke early and Brayden was in the tub. I got him out as quickly as I could, dried him off, and got him dressed. From the time she started to cry to the time I had him out and ready, it had been ten minutes. And she was done crying and back asleep. That experience along with the years since in having other children besides the baby, have taught me that sometimes if you wait 10-15 minutes, the baby will just go back to sleep. So I make it a policy that if baby sounds okay (and you do get used to knowing what is okay and what isn't), I let the baby cry for 10 minutes before I get baby. Don't reply to every sound. You can create a 45 minute waking habit if you respond every time your baby makes a peep.

5-Know You Will Make Mistakes
You are human. You are learning. You will get waketime lengths wrong. You will overstimulate your baby. You will dress your baby to warm or not warm enough. You are going to make mistakes along the way. You won't ruin your baby for life. So know mistakes are inevitable and don't beat yourself up about it. 

6-Accept and Don't Stress. Don't Take It Personally
There are some babies who are 45 minute sleepers. My oldest was quite consistent at the 45 minute nap until he was about 6.5 months old. The best thing to do if you are in a chronic short sleep situation is to accept that it is what it is (while still troubleshooting) and don't take it personally. See Chronic 45 Minute Naps for more. 

Click on the image to read more:
 Common reasons for poor sleep

 Sleep disruptions you will face as a baby wise mom

 What to do when your baby is taking short naps

 What is a sleep transition and how does it impact naps?


 Surviving 45 Minute Naps




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