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My Grandpa

My grandfather with Kaitlyn as a baby
I must indulge for a bit. My grandfather recently passed away. I think I would be remiss if I didn't say something about him here.

So much of who I am came from my grandfather. He was extremely chill. He had seven children and among the seven of them, they only remember him getting angry a couple of times. My father is the same way, and I have inherited this trait from them. 

My grandfather was a book lover. He loved to read books and read them often. All of his children love to read. This love of books has been passed down to me, and I am striving to pass this down to my children.

My grandfather was an extremely hard worker. No matter what he was working on, he worked hard and put 100% of his effort into it. This work ethic has been passed on to me, as well. 

My grandfather also had a freakishly good memory. He could remember details you would never expect anyone to remember. People would often call him to get information they needed. This is where I got my memory from. He was also very witty.

My grandfather loved sports. He loved to play and loved to watch. This love of sports has been  passed down the generations of his family. The night my dad, their seventh child, was born, there was a basketball game he wanted to get to. He asked my grandmother to hurry and get the baby out so he could go (and he lived past that moment in life, so it shows what a nice lady my grandmother is). My dad is also a huge sports fan, so he loves that story. 

My grandfather was fiercely loyal. This is another trait that has been passed down. He and my grandmother were married for 70 years. Along with this loyalty was his supportive nature. His family came first and he attended everything he could. 

There are many other qualities that I hope I have some of and want to develop stronger. My grandfather was a man of great integrity. They say he thought it was disgraceful if you needed a contract. Your word should be as good as anything. He was trustworthy and honest. If he said it, you knew it was true. I have a funny story that illustrates his honesty. My grandfather was a huge Yankees fan. About 12 years ago, a bunch of us took my grandfather to Denver to watch the Yankees play the Rockies. For one of the games, we had a rain delay of a couple of hours. We hung around the stadium, and by the time the game resumed, the stadium was basically empty. Well, here were were sitting at about right field and high up while perfectly good seats were now vacant down behind home plate. We moved down to get some better seats. Everyone except my grandfather. He was the lone man on the upper level of the stadium for the duration of that game. He had his ticket and his seat assignment and he would not budge from it. 

My grandfather was faithful. He was obedient and humble in his faith. I was touched at the many stories of his dedication to paying tithing. My grandparents were very poor as most farmers are, yet my grandfather had high concern over making sure his tithing was paid--so much so he wouldn't mail it in; he had to hand-deliver it. 

My grandfather was a fantastic in-law. He was not demanding. He never told his married children nor their spouses what to do. He was loving and accepting of them and was just always happy to see them. 

My grandfather was not judgmental. He was loving toward all. He was truly Christ-like in how he treated others. My grandfather had a lot of posterity, and somehow we all seem to think we are our grandparents' favorite child/grandchild/great-grandchild/in-law...That is how well they loved us and showed interest in our lives. 

I am glad to to have been able to learn more about his life over the last few weeks. Of course he was not perfect as he was human, but he had many admirable qualities. I have been touched at how much of an influence he has had on my life. It brings to light the importance of what we teach our children. It really can last through the generations. It also brings to light the value in knowing our family. It is inspiring to look at the strengths of those who have gone before us and strive to follow in those examples. 

I am also grateful on this day following Easter for a loving Savior who made it possible for me to reunite with my grandfather and other family members who have passed away. While I miss my grandfather, I know he is enjoying many sweet reunions and that I can enjoy one with him someday (as McKenna frankly put it, "It's okay mom. When you die you will see him again."). 

Building Faithful Testimony in Children

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One of the scariest realizations you come to as a parent trying to raise your children to live the Gospel of Jesus Christ is the fact that your child might some day turn from it all. My children and your children all have the ability to choose what to in life, and despite our best efforts, they might reject it. This is simultaneously the greatest and scariest gift the Lord has given us all--free will.

I bet most if not all of us know someone who has strayed despite coming from a strong home. The whole thing is a very real reality. This of course has had me thinking, how can I best raise my children to want to choose to follow the gospel? As I was recently studying, I came across a great talk that gave me some direction.

I was raised in a home where my parents didn't go to church. I went on my own. I also, therefore, did my gospel studying primarily alone. I got some at church each week, but most of it was at home on my own. As hard as it was, it was also a great blessing because I grew to have my own testimony. It was mine. I wasn't leaning on anyone but the Lord for my faith. I have often wondered how I can allow my children to have that same experience while providing them with the home and family support and benefits I can give.

I believe if my children gain a strong and powerful personal testimony of their own, they have a better chance of sticking with their faith throughout their lives. I read The Power of a Personal Testimony by Dieter F. Uchtdorf that gave some great ideas for how to build a personal testimony. He said that the process of gaining a testimony is based on the law of harvest "For whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap" (Galations 6:7). So with real effort, our testimonies will be real and strong. Here are the steps Uchtdorf suggests for building a strong testimony:

1-Desire to Believe
I think as parents, this is completely in our favor. Children are trusting and believing. They are also highly emulating. Your child wants to be like you. If you believe, your child will want to, also. The desire will be there. Be sure you are as good of an example as you can be so your child doesn't grow to view the gospel as a hypocritical thing. You will make mistakes and that is perfectly normal--apologize when you do. Make amends when you do. 

2-Search the Scriptures
Uchtdorf says, "...through diligent study of the word of God, the good seed "will begin to swell within your breasts" if you will not resist with unbelief. This good seed will "enlarge [your] sould" and "enlighten [your] understanding (Alma 32:28)."

So we need to create situations where our children study the scriptures. That is one reason we have daily family scripture study. That is one reason I make sure my children see me study the scriptures daily (back to them wanting to be like me). 

There are two other things I can think of to do. One is to answer your child's questions with the scriptures. When your child asks you a question, even when you know the answer and can quote a scripture, say to your child, "Let's see what the scriptures say about that." Show your child how to seek answers to questions in the scriptures. This will teach your child where the knowledge comes from. You are awesome, but the knowledge isn't from you! It is from the Lord. Your child will learn to turn to the Lord with questions.

I also have my children who can read do personal scripture study each morning before they leave for school. I am trying to establish that habit now so that it will become as normal a part of their lives as brushing their teeth each morning. When we read the scriptures, we are then able to recall what we have read. We cannot remember something that was never in our minds to begin with.

3-Do the Will of God; Keep the Commandments
To gain a testimony of something, we have to live it. This goes back to being a good example. And this is a big part of our job as parents in these young years. We are teaching our children how to live right. We teach them to do what is right even when it is hard. Kaitlyn recently wrote on the neighbor's shed. When we found out, I walked her over to apologize to the neighbor and ask what she could do to make up for it. The neighbor didn't mind, but is a mother herself so she came up with a job for Kaitlyn did to make amends for her mistake. Kaitlyn was not happy about going to the neighbor and telling her what she had done, but I hope it was a lesson to her in the importance of keeping the commandments, including the commandment of making things right when we make mistakes and the commandment to be honest.

4-Ponder, Fast, and Pray
We need to pray for our testimonies. As parents, we should pray for our children. We should encourage our children to pray for themselves. We should encourage our children to think about the things they learn, seek answers to questions that arise, and pray to know if what they are learning is true.

I hope these ideas are helpful to you as you try to raise your child in the gospel. I obviously haven't been able to put these things to the full test, and the reality is my children will all have the freedom to accept or reject the gospel in the end. But I hope that I will be able to look back at the years I was given to teach them and know I did all I could do to help them come unto Christ. 

How To Teach Children About Christ All Year

How To Teach Children About Christ All Year. Focusing on Christ is not just a Christmas thing. In this post are tips for teaching about Jesus Christ year round. 

How To Teach Children About Christ All Year. Focusing on Christ is not just a Christmas thing. In this post are tips for teaching about Jesus Christ year round.

What we do to teach our children about Jesus Christ on a regular basis is really quite simple, but often the simple things in life prove to be the hardest. We do things that are bit by bit each day and each week. I will break it down into simple categories. I would encourage you to work on one category at a time. That seems to be less overwhelming. Once you have one category down, move on to the next.

Do not underestimate the power of these simple things, and do not wait for your "baby" to get older before you start them. I erroneously assumed Brayden wouldn't gain anything anyway and waited until he was older before doing many things. That was very wrong. I have watched my girls absorb and emulate things as they have grown up with these things present in their lives from birth. Even an infant can benefit from the spirit that comes from doing these things.

Reader Religious Blogs

This is the place to share your religious blogs. Leave a comment with a link to your blog. You can also leave a short summary of what your blog is all about if desired. I will move your link and info up into the main body of this post.

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Christie said...



My blog is about training my two children in the Lord, including Bible lessons, funny short stories, and short devotions for moms! The blog is based on my book of the same title which will be released this fall.

www.mywalkwitheden.com



Lauren said...



I started a blog about my daughter when she was born 9 weeks early. I guess its a family blog too. I blog about her, which often leads me to think about God too. So I guess it is both! :)

lauren-duke.blogspot.com



Chelsey said...



Hey! My blog is linked here. I do write about my family, but the underlying theme is the Lord, so I think this is the best place for it.



Becca said...



I am amazed at the lessons God teaches me simply by raising and watching my son as he grows. These are just some of my observations and lessons learned. I call it a Glimpse of Heaven.

http://glimpsingheaven.blogspot.com/



Leigh said...



My blog is about my journey as a Christian, wife, and mom to my baby girl on the mission field in South Africa

http://leighandandy.blogspot.com



The Cernas said...



My blog is about what I am learning as a missionary in El Salvador. I also include my ideas that help make our life excellent in a third world country, and little thoughts on motherhood.

http://christinecerna.blogspot.com/

Keri at Growing in His Glory said...
My website is called "Growing in His Glory" and it is a ministry I have started to help women "grow" to become the wives, mothers, and daughters of God we are called to be, giving all the glory to the Father.

http://www.growinginhisglory.com


Erin said...
Hi, my blog is about life as a wife and busy mom of two and the things that the Lord is teaching me about those things. With a focus on encouraging other women in their walks with God. It also has recipes on there for the busy mom that are easy, fast, tasty, and help your grocery bill stay low. :)

www.simplyfollowing.com


*Butler, Party of 2* said...
Butler, Party of 3 (www.butlerpartyof3.com) includes lessons I teach in a ladies' Bible study as well as devotions. Love being able to share what the Lord


LaTessa said...
My blog is called Redeemed Ministry and it's for those have dealt or are dealing with Postpartum Depression and Anxiety, from a Christian perspective. It can also be used as a resource for husbands and loved ones of someone who is dealing with this, or just depression/anxiety in general. I just started it so it's fairly new :)
http://redeemedministry.wordpress.com/


Jessica said...
I'm a full time pastor and full time mom. I blog about the intersection between those two worlds at Reverend Mother.
www.jessicalagrone.com


Rhianna said...
Wasn't sure where to put this... :)
Ministry Wife - www.ministrywife.com