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The Basics of a Dreamfeed

The basics of a dreamfeed. The things you need to know to help the dreamfeed effectively work for your baby to sleep through the night. 

The basics of a dreamfeed. The things you need to know to help the dreamfeed effectively work for your baby to sleep through the night.


The dreamfeed is a helpful tool to help your baby sleep through the night when you are also sleeping through the night. Baby need so many feedings in a 24 hour period, and the dreamfeed is a way to make sure another feeding happens during your day so fewer need to happen during your night.

The term "dreamfeed" comes from the book Secrets of the Baby Whisperer (affiliate link) by Tracy Hogg. A dreamfeed is simply a late feeding that starts typically between 10-11 PM. The baby is already in bed, but you go in and feed baby one last time before heading off to bed yourself. The idea here is that baby gets a feeding in just before you go to sleep. When baby starts sleeping 7-8 hours straight without eating, these 7-8 hours then fall between 10-6, giving you a good night stretch to sleep yourself.

The dreamfeed is not necessary. If you would rather feed baby and put her to bed in the 7-8 PM hour and then head to bed yourself, go for it. The downside to not doing a dreamfeed is that it will likely be that the 7-8 hour stretch of sleep between night feedings will come between 7-2 instead of 10-6. If you are okay with this, there is nothing wrong with it. What you have to do is be prepared so when you hear stories of the 8 week old sleeping through the night, from 10-6, and yours is still waking up around 2 am, you can not be discouraged. You can remind yourself that your baby is also sleeping well and there is nothing to worry about. 

Some babies do not respond well to the dreamfeed. Some won't wake up for it and some sleep mores soundly through the night without it. Always do what is best for your baby; however, also be sure the dreamfeed legitimately does not work and the problems is not with your implementation of the dreamfeed. Some babies are very particular about certain aspects of the dreamfeed, so you might be able to tweak  one thing and get a great stretch of sleep in the night. 

In general, a dreamfeed works well for most babies. Some babies take work to get to take the dreamfeed initially. I had babies who needed a lot of time and effort put into establishing the dreamfeed before it was really a benefit. For me, it was something I wanted to establish. I wanted to be able to stay up past baby's bedtime to spend time with my husband. With effort, I established a dreamfeed with those babies.

Here are the basics of a dreamfeed to help you get baby sleeping through the night.

The Benefits and Drawbacks of Doing a Dreamfeed

The Benefits and Drawbacks of Doing a Dreamfeed. This post discusses the good things about doing a dreamfeed for longer night sleep from baby as well as the drawbacks of doing a dreamfeed.

The Benefits and Drawbacks of Doing a Dreamfeed. This post discusses the good things about doing a dreamfeed for longer night sleep from baby as well as the drawbacks of doing a dreamfeed.

The Dreamfeed is a powerful tool to help your baby sleep a longer stretch through your night sleep. This allows baby to get the feedings she needs while allowing you the longest stretch of uninterrupted sleep possible. 

Sleep has many powerful, known benefits. Sleep helps you heal (a benefit after delivering a baby) and helps you think through things better (a benefit for a mother caring for children). Helping your baby sleep well through the night helps your baby, but it also helps you as the mother, which in turn, helps your baby. 

The Dreamfeed can be a handy tool. Sometimes it works beautifully and sometimes it is a big flop. Here are some tips, comments, and advice from Babywise moms on the topic of the Dreamfeed. In making these comments, moms were pondering if they would use the dreamfeed for their next child. 

You will notice not every mom loved the Dreamfeed. For some, it worked great for one child and not well for a different child. Some fully disliked it. Most, however, really loved the Dreamfeed and found great benefit from using it. Read more about the Dreamfeed here. 

Eat

The first element to the Babywise routine is "Eat." These posts will help guide you through the elements of "eat" you will encounter as a Babywise mom. Visit this page for help on the "Wake" portion of the Babywise routine. Visit this page for help on the "Sleep" portion of the routine.

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Bottles

Breastfeeding 


Discipline and Feeding:

Dropping Feedings:
Feeding Cycle:
Feeding Supplies:
Finger Foods:


Making Babyfood:

Mealtime:

Newborns and Feeding: (for more on Newborns, see the Newborn Index)
Nighttime Feedings:

Picky Eating:


Schedules: 


Sippy Cups:

Solid Foods:
Snacks:
Toddlers:

Dream Feed and Babywise

Dream Feed and Babywise. What the Dreamfeed looks like for a Babywise mom and her baby. How to properly do the Dreamfeed with your Babywise baby. 

Dream Feed and Babywise. What the Dreamfeed looks like for a Babywise mom and her baby. How to properly do the Dreamfeed with your Babywise baby.


When Brayden was a baby, I somehow managed to parent him without the benefit of the Internet. Of course the Internet existed then, but it was not even in the top ten list of what you would turn to when you had questions in life. We muddled through and made it out okay.

When Kaitlyn came along, I figured I would be just fine as a parent because really things had, in the end, gone quite well with Brayden. As is the case with children, however, she was different. She was an angel baby, but she had reflux. This reflux added a dimension of uncertainty to my day. After a few weeks of parenting her the old fashioned way, I had the bright idea to see what the Internet had to offer. 

What I found was that most parents with babies with reflux had it really bad. Because of our use of Babywise, we really had it quite good. Turning to moms with babies with reflux got me no where. They thought a good night was one where their baby didn't scream all night long. I had higher aspirations than that (and Kaitlyn already wasn't screaming. Again, angel baby). Despite knowing we had it good, I wanted wisdom. I wanted to find moms who were seasoned with life experience who had done Babywise with a reflux baby who could give me advice. 

I didn't find it. I did find Babywise groups, but I also found that I was the seasoned mom with experience in these groups. Instead of being mentored, I was the mentor. It has led me here to this blog and was therefore a rich and rewarding experience. I rather enjoy helping parents become the best parents they can be.

Being a mentor doesn't mean you never learn anything, though. I may have been mentoring, but I have always had plenty to learn from others. I have always picked up great tips and tricks along the way, as well as terminology.

Dreamfeed Poll Results

The dreamfeed is the feeding you do in the 10-11 PM hour. You get baby, feed him/her without waking him up too much, and then put baby back down for the night. The idea is that your baby will then sleep longer through the night. Read Dreamfeed FAQs for more. It works for many babies! But not for all. Here are the latest poll results on the subject of the dreamfeed. You can find answers linked here. People also answered on my Facebook Page

1. Did your baby do well with the dreamfeed right away or did you have to work at it for a time first?
Didn't Work: 2
Worked Right Away!: 7
Took Some Time: 4

2. What time did you do the dreamfeed?
NA: 1
9:30: 1
10:00: 5
10:30: 4
Varied: 2

Leah said: "The time changed depending on her schedule, age, and how well the night was going. It started out at 11:00 so that she'd make it longer into the night, but staying up that late is hard for me, so I started moving it back until it was at 10:00 and it stayed there for a while, and now it's at 9:30."

3. Was your baby sensitive to the exact time the dreamfeed happened? (for example, did great if dreamfeed at 10:35 but not if it was at 10:45)
NA: 1
No: 11
Yes!: 1

4. Did the dreamfeed seem to help baby sleep longer through the night/help baby wake up less during the night?
No: 3
Yes: 10

Jennifer said: "They woke up more, because they still woke up when they wanted. It did not help them sleep longer, just made me have to stay up later!" 

5. What age did you drop the dreamfeed?
8-12 Weeks: 2
3-4 Months: 4
6 Months: 3
7 Months: 1
Still Going: 2
Do Not Remember: 1

6. Why did you drop the dreamfeed?
No Longer Needed (sleeping through the night): 5
To Avoid Disrupting Sleep: 2
Just Decided to Try It: 2
Wasn't Working: 3
NA: 2

Lacey said: "He wasn't waking up at all during the feeding, so I thought I'd try dropping it and it worked. The first couple of nights after dropping it, he did wake up at 5AM / 5:30AM so I went in and fed and also fed again at my preferred wake time of 7AM. After that, he slept until 7AM on his own and eventually until 7:30AM on his own. "

7.Would you try to do dreamfeed with your next baby?
No: 1
Yes!: 10

8. Any words of wisdom for parents out there?
Jennifer said: "Just know it may not work for you and that's ok!"

Leah said: "Besides being cozy, the dreamfeed is also a great time to make sure baby is at a comfortable temperature, and hasn't leaked through her diaper. (I'd much rather do a diaper/pajama/sheets change at 10:00 than at 2:00am.)"

Lacey said: "Stick to a consistent schedule for morning wake up time and last bottle of the night! Let the baby cry it out unless of course you know something isn't right!"

Natalie said: "Not ALL babies take a DF! I had assumed you could force it with any baby...but some it just doesn't help. That being said, as frustrated as I was that my #2 wouldn't take a DF and had a MOTN waking until 4 months, he also STTN 12 hours by 20 weeks. My #1 took much longer to sleep 12 hours since I kept the DF so long. So I think it balanced itself out pretty well."

Brittany said: A dreamfeed should be just that, basically a feeding where they are asleep. Keep the lights off, no talking to them, keep them swaddled, etc. Have the least disturbances as possible so they don't wake up too much and don't want to go back to sleep.

Rochelle said: Just because something works for someone else (or even another baby) don't feel stuck. I was frustrated that they weren't extending their night feedings at all, and it seemed I was doing everything "right." Don't be afraid to try something if what you're doing isn't working.

Ashley said: Track your progress with it. I really wish I would have logged with my first son. It's such a sanity saver! Anyhow, the only way you will know the dreamfeed works for you is if track it. It can be annoying at times to wake your sleeping baby to feed him when you are wanting to go to bed. I rarely napped before the dreamfeed, but suggest it as a good idea in the early newborn weeks Definitely keep it as short and sweet as you can, because baby should not think it is a playtime.

Brinley Summary: Week 19

Reading a story with her Daddy

This is a summary for Brinley's 19th week--she was 18 weeks old.


NURSING
Nursing was all the same. Nothing new to report.

SOLIDS
This week we added pears to Brinley's menu. She wasn't so sure about them at first, but she quickly liked them okay. She doesn't have the love she has for bananas, but she likes them.

NIGHT SLEEP
There were three nights toward the end of this week that Brinley woke up early. The first one, naturally, came the morning after I had stayed up late for the first time since she was born. We had friends over and I was up until about 12:30 AM. It was a Friday night and I figured I could sleep in a bit the next day. Then she was up at about 6:50. Oh babies! She just talked until we got her at about 7:10. It was so funny because it has been months since she woke earlier than 7:10--most mornings are right around 7:30. 

The next morning was even earlier--right around 6:30-6:40 if I remember right. The next night was 6:50.

So of course when you have a baby start waking early, you start to analyze why. I had four theories.

Theory one was that the dreamfeed was disrupting her sleep. She had started to wake for the dreamfeed and talk to me, so I knew it was disrupting her more than was ideal. Because of that, we started leaving her swaddled for the dreamfeed.

Which leads me to theory two. Theory two is that she liked to be unswaddled for the dreamfeed so she could stretch out a bit. Maybe she wanted to be unswaddled again for the dreamfeed. 

Theory three was that the heater was waking her up somehow. It had suddenly gotten much colder right when she started waking early so the heater was coming on earlier in the morning. 

Theory four was that it was just some random thing. Babies are people and can randomly have some insomnia. This was my initial go-to theory until she woke early the second day. I didn't think she would have a random off day two days in a row.

Then you of course have other endless possibilities. Is she getting sick? Does she need to drop the swaddle? Is i ta wonder week issue?

Which theory was right? I believe it was theory three--the heater.

DREAMFEED
So Brinley woke early night one and we did nothing different. We decided if it was a fluke, we didn't want to do anything that might further the waking.

After the second night of Brinley waking early, we decided to go with the dreamfeed. We just dropped it cold turkey and went to bed early :) It was so sad for me. I love the little sleepy baby feedings. But if it was disrupting her sleep I obviously didn't want to keep it around just to suit my own desires. 

As you might recall, the next night she woke early again, but back up to 6:50 so it was better than the night before. At the very least it told me she likely didn't need the dreamfeed anymore. We stuck with it and she continued being fine without the dreamfeed. So it is officially gone.

HEATER WAKING
We moved on to the theory that it was the heater waking her up. I had noticed this months before--she seemed to wake up in the morning shortly after the heater came on in the morning. So we set the temperature to come up at 7:30--her desired waketime.

With the colder nights, however, the heater was kicking on and she was waking shortly after. It must have just been close enough to her wake time that it disrupted her because I know it comes on a few times through the night.

I started making sure the heater did not come on and she did not wake up. I honestly have no idea what about it would wake her. It isn't blowing on her--we bought a deflector and have it blowing away from her so that isn't it. It also isn't noisy. I don't have the mystery solved.

PLAYTIME
Brinley started to love to stand this week. I decided to get out the old Jumperoo. She loved it! She couldn't stay in it for long periods becuase her muscles weren't strong enough to keep her there, but she is slowly getting stronger and able to play in it a bit longer.

I am also amazed at the strides she is making with her hand abilities. She is improving on those fine motor pincer practice. They learn so fast!

SWADDLE
I decided to try a nap with one arm unswaddled again. It took her about 20 minutes to fall asleep, compared to the 5-10 that is her norm at that time of day, but she did it! It was her first nap to fall asleep with partially unswaddled. I did it for the fourth nap of the day because it is short anyway and the least important nap in my mind. I stuck with that each day. Once she gets better at falling asleep for that nap, I will move it to the third nap as well.

CHECK UP AND VACCINATIONS
She had her four month check up this week. Everything was great. She is continuing to move higher on the growth curve. She is still small, but getting higher and higher on the curve at each visit. 

She did not like her vaccinations. At all. It took her a few minutes to get her to stop crying. I did this visit later in the day. I typically like to do it after the first nap of the day so they have all day to react to vaccinations if they are going to. This time slot was all they had and I figured it would work out well so I could take older kids with me and get the flu mist for them. 

Brinley did not like the initial injections, but she had no issues with the aftermath--no swelling, no fever, no disruptions to sleep. I have found if my children had a rough time with the two month shots, they don't for four months. If they didn't for two months, they do for four months.

SCHEDULE
Our schedule typically looks like this:

7:30--feed
8:35--nap
11:30--feed
12:45--nap
2:30 or 3:00--feed
3:45--nap (75 minutes later) 
5:00 or 5:30--feed
6:30--nap (80 minutes after waking)
7:30--feed, then bedtime
9:45--dreamfeed--until it was dropped